Currently I’m reading Steve Harvey’s book, “Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man”. It’s taught me a lot about what the male gender thinks and how/why they do the things they do. It’s also taught me how to change my behavior so I won’t end up in destroyed relationships.
So far my favorite chapter has been about being a Sport Fish vs. Keeper. The chapter actually brought me to tears because when Steve Harvey was describing the characteristics of a keeper it reminded me of myself. Maybe that’s why I teared up…who knows I’m a girl and I’m just over emotional. Like right now I’m crying as I listen to Ne-Yo’s song, “Part of the List” over & over & over & over again.
So the chapter I’m on now is talking about standards I have set for the people that I will potentially date. I’ve decided why not, answer the questions, and express them with the people that read my blog.
1. What specific kind of man are you looking for?
I want a man who loves God more than anything on this world. I also want him to love his mother and know how to treat women. I want him to be athletic, tall, supportive, sweet, and willing to serve the Lord as much or even more than God blesses him (if that makes sense…meaning if my husband is a professional athlete he needs to be a deacon in church). Smart and definitely be able to carry on more than a 5 minute conversation about sports. I want him to enjoy me and love me just as much as I enjoy and love him.
2. How do you expect to be pursued?
Daily text messages are nice..I understand if a guy is busy but I like to know that he’s thinking about me. I like talking on the phone too but I’m more in person than “caking” on the phone til the wee hours of the night. If we live in the same time I’d want us to see each other at least once a day. Oh and make sure to include at least 3-4 date nights in the week. I understand people are busy because I’m a busy gal also but I want to know that my man is being just as flexible as I will be to see him.
3. What level of commitment do you expect?
I’m not too much the fan of open relationships…those are a waste of time. I want full commitment meaning you only want me and I only want you. I have no time for a wandering eye or the “wannabe playa” that was definitely high school and I’ve grown up since then.
4. What kind of financial security do you expect this man to have?
Well….sorry fellas you’ll have to blame my daddy. He’s definitely treated me to the finer things in life and taught me how a woman should be treated. Money isn’t everything but I want my husband to be able to support my needs, many of my wants, and also be there for my outlandish dreams. I need a hard-worker, someone who is willing to make sacrifices and do what it takes to support me and our family. I’m definitely not a gold digger and I will work to help my husband (I couldn’t be a housewife I will go crazy); however, I don’t want it all to depend on me. I need/want help!
5. Do you want a man who wants kids and is family oriented?
Definitely! My family is very important to me and I want my man to enjoy his family/my family as much as I do. He also needs to love kids because I love children (I’m going to be a teacher) and I get attached really easy. I also hope to have children of my own so liking children is a MUST!
6. Does he have to be religious/spirtual?
Uhh duh! I’m a God-fearing woman seeking a God-fearing man. If you’re not into God or Christianity I can’t date you…it won’t EVER work.
7. Do you mind if he’s a divorcé or has kids?
Hmmm well for the age I’m at right now…I do mind because I would like to be with someone who has no attachments like we’re starting off on a clean slate together.
8. Can you help a man build his dream? Can you adapt to his plan?
I can and will as long as he has a definite plan which includes short and long term goals. I am spontaneous when needed but I try to gain control and put things into perspective. Adapting to his plan of course…I’ll follow my man wherever he goes! I’m a teacher so finding a job around the U.S. or in a different country wouldn’t be that hard.
9. What do you expect of his family?
I hope he gets along with his mother…not a mama’s boy BUT gets along with his mother. I also hope his family likes me, that’s always a big nervous point of mine. My family is and never will be perfect so I definitely do not expect his to be. I just hope they’re proud of the son they’ve raised and how he’s turned out to be.
10. What should he be willing to do to woo you?
Hmmm I’m simple. I like nice things but it’s the little things that go along way with me. Like cards, letters, flowers, messages, emails, etc. I’ve always told myself the boy that takes me on a picnic with peanut butter & jelly AND blue powerade is the boy that I’m going to spend the rest of my life with!
So every time I read a new chapter (I try to read one chapter a day) I ask myself is this something I knew before reading. I also engage in discussions about the chapter. I’ve been told several times to throw this book away and just go with the flow. It’s hard when you’re alone because you want to do whatever’s right and act perfect so you can find “THE ONE”. I’ll just continue praying just like I do every night, be patient, and hope God sends me “MY ONE”.
XOXO!
PS-I’m going to Michael Jackson’s memorial tomorrow…I’m uber excited!!!
